Pregnancy Etiquette Post Mark

Yesterday I saw Dr. C and she gave me her third or fourth speech about being open to a C- section blah blah blah and told me that I had a romanticized notion of childbirth; that it would be the two of us in a room laboring. Is she crazy? There is nothing romantic about being ripped in two and I do not consider a vaginal/normal birth to be romantic in anyway. She reminded me that twin births are always in the operating room, that there are two of everything more blah blah blah. I told her that I had faith in my ability to deliver without drugs or surgery and that I had faith in her that she would help me do it. She thinks I am a good candidate for this insane (i.e. normal) plan but that it was not her job to make me feel better but rather to prepare for the worst and "you would not want a brain damaged child." No shit, I am not that stubborn or stupid to jeopardize a baby's health because I am against C- sections. I thought mentioning a brain damaged child was classy. But, not as appropriate as a grandmother from my school who chatted me up about my pregnancy in the elevator later that afternoon. She told me she was once pregnant with twins too and I smiled and said "Oh, so you know what I am getting into. How old are they now?" She proceeded to tell me that one was her granddaughter's mother (whom I know) and the other one was born asphyxiated, dead, and that it was so sad. I was not sure what to say other than sorry (and "What the fuck is wrong with you for telling me about a dead twin?) and I told her it must be hard/strange for her daughter. Her response, "Oh we never really talked about it." Thanks for sharing!